I felt like I have really learnt some new skills that I could first practice on the ground and then transfer that to being in the saddle. I had never done anything like this before and it was a whole different approach. Over the past year we got him used to walk, trot and canter in hand and developed his rhythm and balance. Claire showed me how to get him to stand on a relaxed rein and how to keep calm by using my own body language and energy and to always remove him from worrying situations so as to support him rather than trying to make him confront them. This was a very different approach from what I had previously learnt which was all about ‘making him know who was the boss’. As soon as I turned him around to look at the traffic it almost immediately started to make him feel more confident and he now takes my lead and we haven’t had any bolting episodes since.
He was also difficult to catch and Claire showed me how to read his behaviour by his body language and see what part of the exercise he was worried about rather than use aversive techniques. I said he often looked like he was playing and he often came straight up to me after having a few minutes fun. Claire said I was very astute and not many people realise a lot of behaviour we see is indeed play and as it wasn’t dangerous and he always came after a few minutes to allow it as it would strengthen our bond. I started to ride out with Claire through the woods and we used the same techniques to cross water, get on him from walls etc. and to practice riding over different ground etc. Claire commented on how good my timing was and how settled Jim had become and we really started to enjoy our rides out. I found Claire very understanding about how confidence can affect you as after having suffered a stroke herself she has had to work hard to get her own confidence back as her balance suffered. After years of breaking youngsters in she knew how difficult this apprehension can be and how it can inhibit us. She told me how important it is not to put additional pressures on ourselves and only ride as far as we felt able as our horses need us to be there for them and being anxious didn’t help them in anyway. Slowly but surely we were eventually riding out on day rides and meeting all kinds of obstacles and challenges on the way.
I now no longer feel sick and Jim rides out alone and in company due to his increasing trust in me. Claire does push me out of my comfort zone but always supports me and makes sure she knows what is within my limits. My overall goal was to take Jim to my local show and handle him myself. Claire showed me how to get him ready and taught me Ringcraft and I taught him how to stand square by voice command. As I always throw myself in at the deep end and hope for the best Claire suggested that it might be better to break the goal down into small manageable steps much like we do for the horse. To that end we decided that it might be best if I showed Jim ‘in hand’ much for Jim’s benefit as well as my own. Thank goodness she suggested this as I hadn’t realised how much showing entails and felt very nervous on the day. Claire’s humour kept me strong and I couldn’t believe it when I got 1st at my local show. Imagine my surprise when I was presented with a cup - I hadn’t realised that I had also won the overall in hand championship for coloured cobs too. It was a proud moment as Jim’s past owner was there and he couldn’t believe how we had both come on. Claire is now helping me prepare Jim and myself to take part in the ridden classes next year and I have even lunged Jim over a few small jumps which he seems to enjoy.
I wholeheartedly recommend Claire and her approach and her unending enthusiasm and humour to anyone who wants to develop their relationship with their horse and learn how socialisation and play is very important to them. I now know how to observe Jim’s body language and to see how my own body position is affecting his behaviour. Whenever I used to think he was acting up I now know I hadn’t prepared him enough and just like us some days they feel more confident than others.
Jim just cannot do enough for me these days and I cannot wait to learn more. I have even started riding out with friends who ask me for some tips. I usually say it’s just about trying to see it from your horse’s point of view and taking the time to build a relationship with them."
Sallie Russell